How do I deal with a ridiculous bride? ?
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Liz S asked:
I’m in a wedding, and the bride’s bachelorette party is in Las Vegas at her insistence. It’s being thrown by her sisters and myself and a few of the other bridesmaids can’t go due to finances. We have decided to throw her a weekend at a hotel and theme park closer to home as a surprise. Before we had the chance to tell her, she called one of the other bridesmaids to complain that we weren’t going to Vegas and let her know that she was upset that we weren’t throwing her an alternate party. We decided to smile throughout and throw her the weekend despite the fact that she’s being insensitive and ridiculous… the weekend is supposed to start tomorrow and she has just phoned us to let us know that she’s sick and might not be able to make it. (At this point she knows that we’re throwing a bachelorette party this weekend) We have already paid for everything in advance to get better deals and are not able to cancel and get the hotel refunded. She has basically demanded this alternative weekend and is now wishy washy about her ability to make it after we have bent over backwards to accomodate her. At what point should we stop smiling and let her know this is unacceptable, regardless if she is getting married or not.
Oh we are taking the vacation and not making an effort to make it up to her another weekend. There’s no way I’m wasting that money… I guess I just need a way to tell her she’s a nut and that I’m through without being too rude?
Darrell
I’m in a wedding, and the bride’s bachelorette party is in Las Vegas at her insistence. It’s being thrown by her sisters and myself and a few of the other bridesmaids can’t go due to finances. We have decided to throw her a weekend at a hotel and theme park closer to home as a surprise. Before we had the chance to tell her, she called one of the other bridesmaids to complain that we weren’t going to Vegas and let her know that she was upset that we weren’t throwing her an alternate party. We decided to smile throughout and throw her the weekend despite the fact that she’s being insensitive and ridiculous… the weekend is supposed to start tomorrow and she has just phoned us to let us know that she’s sick and might not be able to make it. (At this point she knows that we’re throwing a bachelorette party this weekend) We have already paid for everything in advance to get better deals and are not able to cancel and get the hotel refunded. She has basically demanded this alternative weekend and is now wishy washy about her ability to make it after we have bent over backwards to accomodate her. At what point should we stop smiling and let her know this is unacceptable, regardless if she is getting married or not.
Oh we are taking the vacation and not making an effort to make it up to her another weekend. There’s no way I’m wasting that money… I guess I just need a way to tell her she’s a nut and that I’m through without being too rude?
Darrell
March 30th, 2009 at 7:56 pm
Why bother ? you and your friends should take advantage of the weekend break and enjoy yourself.
She has the opportunity to go and refused, she sounds like a spoilt child stamping her feet.
Let her stew, you have done all you can so stop worrying the offer is there if she wants it, if she doesn’t then tough you go with everyone else and enjoy..
April 1st, 2009 at 11:45 am
that’s really bad,, i would totally bitch at her.. she’s a bitch
April 3rd, 2009 at 8:47 pm
NOW? All of you should get together and tell her straight out that it is this weekend or never, no ifs ands or butts( pun intended, that is how she is behaving)
April 7th, 2009 at 4:45 am
Honestly at this point , I would be like screw her. Enjoy the weekend since you don’t have an option and if she wants a party in Vegas, let her pay for it. No one is owed a bachelorette party, you guys are doing it out of the kindness of your heart. Honestly you can say something or say nothing. But I wouldn’t allow her to suck me dry because shes a spoiled bride..that’s her husband to bes job.
April 7th, 2009 at 5:54 pm
Right now, Honey…
You tell her all the available money for her ‘bash’ is tied into the current arrangements, it’s non-refundable, and so it’s THAT or NADA…nothing…then inform her the bride doesn’t select or dictate her batchelorette party’s venue….it’s the gals giving it….
..then say since it’s already paid for if she doesn’t go, she doesn’t go…but all you other gals with money invested in it will…and GO. have fun….good luck!
April 7th, 2009 at 9:15 pm
If I’d already paid for it, I’d go without her! You can’t get your money back, so you may as well go and have a good time. I wouldn’t be rude to her. Maybe she’s acting out her pre wedding jitters on you, you never know. I’d let her know, this was planned for her - that she wanted it and you all wanted this to be special for her. BUT, you’ve paid for it and you are going to go have a good time, even if she can’t! No need to get mean about it… if she’s “sick” then she’s sick. But, I wouldn’t let it keep me from having a good time for something I’d spent my hard earned money on!
April 10th, 2009 at 1:05 am
I would tell her NOW that she is being an aZZ. I am getting married in Vegas and it’s expensive so I know the cost, especially when you expect others to have extra money at their disposal. I suggest you and the girls live it up this weekend without her, her loss.